Weddings in the heart of tasmania
Weddings at The Church Campbell Town Tasmania
Set in the Heart of Tasmania, The Church is a beautifully restored 1857 heritage sandstone church offering a truly unique wedding experience that blends character, flexibility, and genuine warmth.
Nestled in historic Campbell Town, this breathtaking heritage treasure is rich in history, quiet romance, and timeless beauty. With soaring timber ceilings, soft natural light, antique furnishings, and serene garden surrounds, The Church offers the perfect balance of heritage elegance and relaxed Tasmanian hospitality.
What makes us special – upfront all-inclusive pricing, BYO & your choice of catering, PLUS:
• Exclusive use of our entire heritage property
• Central Heart of Tasmania location — ideal for guests travelling from across the state or flying into Launceston or Hobart
• Fully fenced grounds offering privacy, peace of mind, and safety for children and guests
• BYO drinks to save a fortune, with our all-inclusive pricing including professional staff to serve your beverages
• Catering your way — choose our Tasmanian catering, bring in your own caterer, or opt for food vans, formal dining, or something completely unique
• Truly all-inclusive pricing with no hidden extras
• Indoor or outdoor ceremonies, photos, and reception all in the one stunning heritage venue
• A church atmosphere without religious constraints — marry your way, not by rules
• Inclusive and LGBTQI+ friendly, proudly supporting couples who want to do things their way
Whether you’re planning an intimate celebration or a joyful gathering of up to 100 guests, The Church provides a warm, inviting setting where your love story takes centre stage.
We believe weddings should feel effortless, authentic, and deeply personal. That’s why we offer transparent pricing, generous inclusions, and complete flexibility. From our signature Tasmanian grazing tables and substantial canapés to the freedom of BYO drinks with professional RSA-qualified bar service, every detail is designed to give you more value, more choice, and more joy.
At The Church, we keep the planning process refreshingly simple. All of our pricing and inclusions are openly listed right here on our website — no hidden information, no waiting for quotes. Explore venue hire fees, catering options (including the freedom to choose an external caterer if you wish), and our BYO Bar Service, all clearly displayed for your convenience.
At The Church, we don’t believe in “one size fits all.”
We believe in meaningful celebrations, honest pricing, relaxed planning, and creating a wedding day that genuinely reflects you.
We’re here for you every step of the way.
🌿 Everything in One Beautiful Location
Ceremony, garden drinks, photos, and reception — all at the same stunning venue.
The Church makes wedding planning simple by offering a complete all-in-one experience. Exchange vows in the gardens, celebrate with a relaxed drinks service on the lawns, capture photos beneath the historic elm trees, then move seamlessly into the Church for your reception. No travel, no rushing, just one beautiful flow from start to finish.
We can even assist with guest transport, including local bus pick-ups and drop-offs between accommodation venues and The Church.
Let us help you create a day filled with love, laughter, and lasting memories — effortlessly.
🌿 OUR EXTENSIVE INCLUSIONS (with no hidden extras):
• Exclusive use of the fully fenced heritage church and private grounds
• RSA-qualified waitstaff to serve your BYO drinks
• All glassware, barware, ice, fridge and freezer access
• All crockery, cutlery, platters and serving ware
• Hot and cold self-serve drink stations available for the entire event
• Silver tray service
• Venue access the day prior
• Full styled outdoor lounging area set-up including antique furniture, chaise lounges, velvet throws and sashes, rugs and carpets
• Wine barrels, stools, garden furniture, chairs, picnic rugs, umbrellas and gazebos
• Gold candelabras and candles throughout the venue
• Tealights throughout the venue
• Access to power, water, extension cords and power boards
• PA system and microphone
• Smart TV and projector for slideshows or presentations
• Buffet tables and full servery equipment
• Antique signing table, cake table, cake knife and serving utensils
• Quality antique and vintage tables, chairs and furnishings throughout the venue
• Full church environment including genuine altar, pulpit, stained-glass windows and aisle
• Fully stocked toilets with complimentary cloth and paper hand towels, sanitary products, sanitiser, quality (non-commercial) toilet paper, deodorants, body sprays and incense, plus regular checking and cleaning throughout the event
• Cleaning before and after your event
• Staff onsite throughout your wedding day and the day prior to assist
• Yard games and outdoor lawn activities
• Wet-weather backup options using gazebos and indoor church spaces
• Wi-Fi access
• Public liability insurance
• Rubbish removal and end-of-event reset
• Onsite coordination support on the day
• Easy guest access, parking and bump-in/bump-out support
Garden & church Weddings
Garden or Church Ceremony — Your Perfect Setting Awaits
Imagine a romantic garden ceremony framed by the 1857 sandstone Church — a natural, open-air celebration surrounded by history and beauty.
Prefer something more traditional? Step inside the Church itself and make your entrance down the red carpet to say “I do” beneath the original timber arches.
Afterwards, guests can relax in the gardens with drinks and lawn games while our team quietly transforms the interior into a stunning reception space — perfect for a formal meal or elegant cocktail-style celebration.
Centrally located in The Heart of Tasmania, The Church is easily accessible from all regions, making it simple for family and friends to come together.
We proudly celebrate love in all its forms and warmly welcome all couples, including those in the LGBTQIA+ community.
The Church Wedding Experience
Your ceremony, your way.
Dreaming of a beautiful “Church wedding” — without the religious formality?
At The Church, you have complete freedom to design a celebration that reflects your values and personality. Choose your own celebrant, your own style, and the perfect space — inside or out — to create a ceremony that feels authentic and meaningful to you.
Every moment of your day — from ceremony to photos to reception — unfolds naturally within one picture-perfect setting. No stress, no travel, just a relaxed and joyful celebration surrounded by the people you love.
Welcoming Your Guests
From the moment your guests arrive, they’re greeted with warmth and hospitality.
As they wander past the stone walls and blooming gardens, they’ll be welcomed with refreshing infused waters and our signature icy fruit punch.
You may choose to have drinks available before or after your ceremony — our professional team will coordinate service to suit your timeline perfectly.
Décor & Entertainment — Your Style, Your Story
The Church’s natural beauty means you can keep styling simple and elegant.
Enjoy the charm of vintage timber furniture, soft fairy lighting, and the romantic glow of candlelight against sandstone walls. Outside, guests can mingle beneath elm trees, play classic lawn games, or gather around the bar as the sun sets.
Our team handles set-up and pack-down, ensuring every detail runs smoothly — so you can focus entirely on celebrating.
Exclusive Use Wedding Venue Hire
ALL-INCLUSIVE Venue Hire: $4,990 + GST
Celebrate your special day with exclusive use of The Church and its fully fenced one-acre heritage grounds.
Enjoy the freedom to host your ceremony, photography and reception all in one unforgettable location — with the flexibility of indoor or outdoor settings, seamless flow for your guests, and complete privacy for the entire day.
What’s Included
Venue & Event Access
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Exclusive use of The Church and grounds
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6-hour ceremony and reception package (extendable at $500/hr)
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Access the evening before or same day for set-up and styling
- Access the following day for pack up and collections
Ceremony Essentials
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Garden or inside Church ceremony seating
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Signing table and chairs
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Pulpit/lectern for celebrant or speakers
Guest Experience
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Tray service of welcoming signature non-alcoholic fruit punch cocktail
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Professional bar staff for post-ceremony drinks (BYO beverages)
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Lawn games for guest entertainment – fully fenced property (especially ideal for children’s safety)
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Complimentary hot & cold drink station (tea, coffee, milk, sugar, mugs, water, fruit punch, etc.)
Entertainment & Comfort
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Full bar usage & service staff as described below
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Dance floor area
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PA system with cordless microphone and music connection
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Wi-Fi access
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Firepit and/or market umbrellas for comfort in all seasons
Styling & Support
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Vintage gift and cake tables
- Outdoor styled area: wine barrels, chairs, tables and styling, including velvet sashes and antique touches
- Full set-up and clean-up included
- Wedding cake cutting and plating
Optional Extras
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Guest transportation (bus transfers available to and from local accommodation venues by arrangement – there is plenty of accommodation options with a motel, hotel and numerous Airbnbs within Campbell Town, Ross and surrounds)
- Bagpiper & Tin Whistle Musician
Pet-Friendly Weddings
Because They’re Family Too
At The Church, we know that pets aren’t “just animals”—they’re family.
As proud dog owners ourselves, we completely understand wanting your four-legged best friend to be part of one of the most important days of your life. For many years our family included two beautiful German Shepherds, and today we share our lives with a much-loved German Shepherd and an energetic Kelpie. They are treasured members of our family, so we know just how special it is to include them in life’s biggest celebrations.
If you’d like your dog or other well-behaved pet to be part of your wedding day, we’ll do everything we can to help make that happen.
Unlike many venues, The Church is privately owned, giving us the flexibility to create a wedding that truly reflects you and your family—including the furry members. Our beautiful heritage property is also fully fenced, allowing your pets to safely enjoy the grounds while giving you peace of mind throughout the day.
Whether you’d like your dog to walk down the aisle, feature in your wedding photographs, greet your guests, or simply be by your side as you say “I do”, we’ll work with you to make it possible.
Some of the most treasured wedding photographs are those that include every member of the family. At The Church, we believe your wedding should celebrate everyone you love—because sometimes the most loyal members of the family have four paws. 🐾
Weddings at The Church – Capacity
Cocktail-Style Celebrations
– up to 100 guests
Our recommended layout blends seated and standing areas to create a relaxed, social atmosphere where guests can mingle, dine, and move comfortably throughout the space.
The open interior of The Church features a thoughtful mix of tables, lounge seating, and standing areas, encouraging easy conversation and a warm, flowing celebration.
Seated Dining & Receptions
– up to 60 guests
For a formal seated reception, The Church comfortably accommodates up to 60 guests at an eclectic collection of antique tables and chairs. Two lounge areas provide additional relaxed seating, perfect for mingling between courses or later in the evening.
If increased seating is required, up to 24 additional tables and chairs can be added, expanding capacity; however, this configuration removes the central aisle to allow for these additional tables.
Grounds & Gardens
Your guests enjoy exclusive use of nearly one acre of fully fenced heritage gardens — private, picturesque, and perfectly suited to ceremonies, photography, and garden drinks.
The grounds include a luxe antique outdoor lounge area, wine barrels with satin sashes, garden furniture, picnic rugs, and lawn games, creating a relaxed and seamless indoor–outdoor experience.
The fully enclosed setting offers peace of mind, privacy, and a safe, enjoyable environment, particularly for weddings with children in attendance.
Unique Catering Flexibility
Choose Our On-Site Catering OR Choose Your Favourite External Caterer!
Our catering, your catering or their catering – the choice is all yours.
We offer 3 flexible catering packages for your wedding from just $39.95 to $69.95 per adult.
Allergies & Dietary Needs:
We are a nut-free kitchen and all our menus are nut free. We’re very happy to work with you to ensure all allergies and dietary requirements are fully catered for.
TASMANIAN GRAZING HOT & COLD BUFFET TABLE
COST – $59.95 p/head
Teens (13–17) $49.95 Children (8–12) $29.95 (4–7) $9.95 Tiny Tots (3 & under) Free
A stunning and abundant feast celebrating Tasmania’s finest local produce, homemade creations, and seasonal freshness.
Grazing tables are our specialty — they’re designed not only to look incredible but to create a relaxed, social dining experience. Guests have complete freedom to graze, mingle, and enjoy both cold and hot dishes at their own pace, helping themselves to whatever they like — and as much as they like.
Please note: Items on our Grazing Buffet may vary according to season and availability.
Buffet Hot & Cold Dishes
A delicious mix of cold and warm favourites to complete the feast:
• Healthy homemade soup (vegan)
• Roasted mixed vegetables with fresh herbs (vegan)
• Swedish meatballs
• Marry Me chicken
• French carrot salad (vegan)
• Spinach, pumpkin & seed salad (vegan)
• Mediterranean vegetable garden tart (vegetarian)
Note: Dishes above may vary and you can request changes.
Homemade Dips
Lovingly made from scratch using fresh Tasmanian ingredients. Examples may include:
• Seasonal homemade dips
• Olive tapenade
• Loaded hummus — topped with tomatoes, olives, parsley, chickpeas & capsicum (vegan)
Tasmanian Seafood
• Salmon mousse (homemade)
Artisan Tasmanian Meats
Locally sourced and prepared with care:
• Leg ham off the bone
• Kabana
• Hot pepperoni salami
• Wallaby & pork terrine (signature homemade recipe)
Tasmanian Cheeses
• Double Cream Brie – creamy, delicate, and smooth with a subtle mushroom aroma
• Vintage Club Cheddar – smooth, velvety texture with a rich, bitey finish
• Tasmanian Persian Fetta (Garlic, Bay & Black Peppercorn) – creamy and crumbly fetta marinated in olive oil with gentle herb and spice infusions
Fresh Fruits & Vegetables
A vibrant selection of fresh, seasonal produce beautifully displayed and ready to enjoy:
• Vegetable sticks (seasonal eg may be – snow peas, carrots, capsicum, celery, cucumbers)
• Seasonal fruits (seasonal eg may be – grapes, melons, apple slices, kiwi fruit)
• Our own free-range eggs
Breads & Crackers
A selection of freshly baked and artisan accompaniments:
• Homebaked breads
• Rustic crispbreads
• Breadsticks
• Variety of savoury biscuits
Optional Add-On
🦪 Freshly Shucked Natural Oysters $35 per dozen.
Served with a side of fresh lemon and a dish of classic Mignonette Sauce.
Hot & Cold Drink Station
• Selection of teas and coffees
• Chilled ice water
• House fruit punch (non-alcoholic)
Tasmanian GRAZING & SERVED CANAPES
Teens (13-17) $49.95. Children (8-12) $29.95 (4-7) $9.95. Tiny Tots (3 & Under) Free.
The best of both worlds & what we highly recommend!
Create a beautifully relaxed and elegant wedding experience with our curated Cold Grazing Table that is a presented during the reception, plus with our staff handing around delicious canapes at intervals. Perfect for guests to graze, helping themselves, plus be served hot finger-food, at intervals, to celebrate in style.
Featuring the very best of Tasmanian regional produce, this abundant spread is both visually stunning and irresistibly delicious.
Your Grazing Table Includes:
Grazing tables are our specialty — they’re designed not only to look incredible but to create a relaxed, social dining experience. Guests have complete freedom to graze, mingle, and enjoy food at their own pace, helping themselves to whatever they like.
Homemade Dips
Lovingly made from scratch using fresh Tasmanian ingredients. Examples may include:
• Seasonal homemade dips
• Olive tapenade
• Loaded hummus — topped with tomatoes, olives, parsley, chickpeas & capsicum (vegan)
Tasmanian Seafood
• Salmon mousse (homemade)
Artisan Tasmanian Meats
Locally sourced and prepared with care:
• Leg ham off the bone
• Kabana
• Hot pepperoni salami
• Wallaby & pork terrine (signature homemade recipe)
Tasmanian Cheeses
• Double Cream Brie – creamy, delicate, and smooth with a subtle mushroom aroma
• Vintage Club Cheddar – smooth, velvety texture with a rich, bitey finish
• Tasmanian Persian Fetta (Garlic, Bay & Black Peppercorn) – creamy and crumbly fetta marinated in olive oil with gentle herb and spice infusions
Fresh Fruits & Vegetables
A vibrant selection of fresh, seasonal produce beautifully displayed and ready to enjoy:
• Vegetable sticks (seasonal eg may be – snow peas, carrots, capsicum, celery, cucumbers)
• Seasonal fruits (seasonal eg may be – grapes, melons, apple slices, kiwi fruit)
• Dried fruits (apricots, dates, figs)
• Our own free-range eggs
Breads & Crackers
A selection of freshly baked and artisan accompaniments:
• Home baked breads
• Rustic crispbreads
• Breadsticks
• Variety of savoury biscuits
Hot & Cold Drink Station
• Selection of teas and coffees
• Chilled ice water
• Fruit-infused water
• House fruit punch (non-alcoholic)
PLUS, SIX (6) Delicious Canape varieties with flexible variations available depending on your preferences:
– 1 Meat-Free Canape. You don’t need meat for flavour, we have finger food flavour bombs that everyone will enjoy, using seasonal ingredients from our onsite gardens and local producers.
– 3 Premium Tasmanian Oysters per person, served natural with mignonette sauce and fresh lemons. A true taste of Tasmania’s pristine waters.
– 1 Tasmanian Chicken Canape. Crowd-pleasing and packed with flavour.
– 1 Tasmanian Lamb or Beef Canape. Tender and beautifully seasoned, with options to suit your theme.
– 2 Warm Bowl-Style Mini Meals. Two choices, one per person
All customised for you! Do you have a fingerfood/canape favourite you would like us to make? We work closely with you to ensure a perfect balance of hot and cold, bold and subtle flavours, and dietary preferences. Whether you’re hosting an intimate gathering or a grand celebration, we’ll tailor the menu to your unique wedding vision.
TASMANIAN GRAZING TABLE
Teens (13-17) $29.95. Children (8-12) $19.95 (4-7) $9.95. Tiny Tots (3 & Under) Free.
A stunning and abundant feast celebrating Tasmania’s finest local produce, homemade creations, and seasonal freshness.
Grazing tables are our specialty — they’re designed not only to look incredible but to create a relaxed, social dining experience. Guests have complete freedom to graze, mingle, and enjoy food at their own pace, helping themselves to whatever they like.
Homemade Dips
Lovingly made from scratch using fresh Tasmanian ingredients. Examples may include:
• Seasonal homemade dips
• Olive tapenade
• Loaded hummus — topped with tomatoes, olives, parsley, chickpeas & capsicum (vegan)
Tasmanian Seafood
• Salmon mousse (homemade)
Artisan Tasmanian Meats
Locally sourced and prepared with care:
• Leg ham off the bone
• Kabana
• Hot pepperoni salami
• Wallaby & pork terrine (signature homemade recipe)
Tasmanian Cheeses
• Double Cream Brie – creamy, delicate, and smooth with a subtle mushroom aroma
• Vintage Club Cheddar – smooth, velvety texture with a rich, bitey finish
• Tasmanian Persian Fetta (Garlic, Bay & Black Peppercorn) – creamy and crumbly fetta marinated in olive oil with gentle herb and spice infusions
Fresh Fruits & Vegetables
A vibrant selection of fresh, seasonal produce beautifully displayed and ready to enjoy:
• Vegetable sticks (seasonal eg may be – snow peas, carrots, capsicum, celery, cucumbers)
• Seasonal fruits (seasonal eg may be – grapes, melons, apple slices, kiwi fruit)
• Dried fruits (apricots, dates, figs)
• Our own free-range eggs
Breads & Crackers
A selection of freshly baked and artisan accompaniments:
• Home baked breads
• Rustic crispbreads
• Breadsticks
• Variety of savoury biscuits
Optional Add-On
🦪 Freshly Shucked Natural Oysters $35 per dozen.
Served with a side of fresh lemon and a dish of classic Mignonette Sauce.
Hot & Cold Drink Station
• Selection of teas and coffees
• Chilled ice water
• Fruit-infused water
• House fruit punch (non-alcoholic)
External Caterers
If you’d prefer to engage your own professional caterer, we can happily accommodate this.
A small additional coordination and cleaning fee applies (depending on guest numbers and catering requirements) to cover venue management, waste handling, and the higher cleaning needs that come with external providers.
💬 Let’s Chat
Together, we’ll tailor the ideal catering solution for your event — so you can relax, celebrate, and enjoy a truly seamless day that runs exactly as you imagine.
Bar & Service for BYO
You supply the drinks, we supply the service!
To ensure the responsible service of alcohol, the safety of your guests, and the careful use of our venue and equipment, a Bar & Service is supplied as part of your venue hire fee. This fee covers the full management, service, and presentation of all beverages brought onto the premises.
Our friendly, professional team manages every detail, allowing you to simply relax and enjoy your celebration — knowing your bar service is in capable hands from start to finish.
Due to liquor licencing laws, we cannot sell/take money for any drinks.
Your Bar & Service includes everything for seamless service and presentation:
• Stocking and display of all your drinks in our fridges, on shelves, and on ice
• Complete set-up and management of the bar service area
• Full bar service from experienced, uniformed, and RSA-qualified bar staff — friendly, professional, and attentive
• Use of our antique bar – a stunning 1830’s William IV Scottish antique
• Glass-door fridge, chest freezer, and a large antique 1800s French bath used as a statement ice bucket
• Additional ice buckets, ice, and feature floral ice balls
• Full range of glassware (variety of wine, flute, tumbler glasses etc), jugs, pitchers and bar equipment
• End-of-function clean-up, including the collection and disposal of all bottles and bar rubbish
• Complete pack-down of the bar area and careful re-boxing of any leftover drinks for you to take home.
A beautiful, professional service ensuring your drinks are perfectly chilled, your guests are well looked after, and your celebration flows effortlessly.
An Option to Consider &
Why We Recommend a Wedding Co-Ordinator
For many couples, a wedding is the biggest event they’ve ever planned. With multiple suppliers, timelines, and logistics, it can quickly become overwhelming.
To ensure your day runs smoothly and you can truly relax, we strongly recommend engaging a professional Wedding Co-Ordinator. A great coordinator keeps everything on track and quietly manages the details — so you don’t have to.
Meet Savannah (Sav)
Savannah is our recommended Tasmania-based wedding planner, with over a decade of experience in weddings and events.
Known for her calm, organised approach and strong local vendor relationships, Savannah brings all the moving parts together from planning through to the final farewell.
On the day, she becomes your planner, coordinator, and trusted go-to, ensuring everything runs seamlessly while you focus on celebrating.
If you’re looking for peace of mind and a stress-free wedding experience, Savannah offers invaluable support.
Enquire directly & Quote “The Church Tasmania” to receive a discount:
🌐 https://weddingsbysavannah.com.au/
If you’re dreaming of a wedding moment that gives goosebumps and beautifully honours tradition, the sound of the pipes may be the perfect finishing touch.
Here is an incredible option to consider:
The Bagpipe Guy – A Stirring Scottish Touch
Imagine being piped into and/or out of The Church, the sound of the bagpipes echoing through the 1857 sandstone walls and across the heritage gardens — an unforgettable moment that instantly elevates the atmosphere.
For couples seeking something traditional, emotional, and deeply memorable, we are delighted to recommend John Ralph – The Bagpipe Guy, a highly respected Tasmanian piper with exceptional local and international experience.
John’s connection to music spans generations, with ancestors who played at the Coronation of Queen Victoria and served as bandmasters in Tasmania. With over 35 years’ experience, his career highlights include performing alongside John Farnham and Andre Rieu, appearing at five Royal Edinburgh Military Tattoos, and playing solo at Balmoral Castle for Her Late Majesty Queen Elizabeth II.
John is also an accomplished tin whistle player, offering a softer, lyrical option ideal for background music or quieter moments during the day.
Enquire directly:
🌐 https://thebagpipeguy.com.au/
Payment Terms
To secure your wedding date, full venue hire payment is required at the time of booking. This locks in your price (avoiding price increases) and guarantees exclusive access to the property, ensuring no other bookings are accepted.
If cancelled more than six months before the event, a 50% refund applies. Within six months, bookings are non-refundable.
Final guest numbers and remaining balances are due two weeks prior to your wedding.
Recommended Wedding Vendors
Wedding vendors recommended by previous Bride & Groom December 2025:
“vendors we worked with who we would 100% recommend”:
Enquiry
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Inclusive Weddings at The Church Tasmania
At The Church Tasmania, love is love—and all love stories are welcome here.
We proudly celebrate and support couples of all identities, cultures, orientations, and backgrounds. Whether you’re planning a same-sex wedding, a multicultural celebration, a neurodiverse-friendly event, or simply want a ceremony that reflects who you truly are—you are safe, seen, and celebrated at The Church.
Our Commitment to Inclusion
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We proudly feature diverse couples in our wedding marketing because representation matters—especially in regional areas.
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We work with respect and joy for all couples, using inclusive language and supporting your unique vision for the day.
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Our venue is fully fenced and family-friendly, with a strong focus on accessibility, emotional safety, and flexible layouts.
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Owners Nicole and Garry hold First Aid certificates, Working With Vulnerable People Cards, National Police Checks, and have backgrouns in Emergency Services, offering confidence and care behind the scenes
LGBTQIA+ Affirming
You don’t need to ask if your wedding is “okay” here—it’s celebrated. We proudly host LGBTQIA+ couples and provide a venue where your identity and love are embraced from your first enquiry to your final dance.
A Wedding Space for Everyone
At The Church, we believe your wedding should feel like home—a place where you can fully be yourself, surrounded by those you love. From quiet, sensory-friendly ceremonies to big, bold celebrations of culture and joy, we’re here to make it happen with kindness and care.
Let’s make your day unforgettable—for all the right reasons.
Come as you are. Love as you are. Marry as you are.